Bility to blindside s at any moment These are the comforting throw away moments that when repeated every winter become permanent creases in our memory folded into the pages of our lives How strange it is then that time can move so fast How odd that our brains latch on to these dull forgettable moments The lulls in between life s big events these are the times we cry for long for that make s ache I would recommend this book to anyone who has recently lost a parent while the gravity of loss is sometimes diminished
Spencer s jokes her voice is authentic in its ability to bring some levity to the dark and devastating world of loss And no matter where you are on your journey through loss Kate Spencer is here to remind you that you can get through it Celebrate the person you ve become not in her absence you ve become not in her absence because of it she writes 35 stars for this niue and candid guide to grief Unfortunately I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate s book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief Because the situations were very different parts of the book didn t resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningfulThe author has divided the book into different sections example Breaking the News Holidays Being Motherless and at the end of each section she has ideas of how to handle certain situations The book is written with humor and isn t a book that is written in a weepy fashion Whether you are part of the club or not it s a book that will make you smile and that s always a good thing to do I m thankfully not a member of the Dead Moms Club but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears Kate lays out the good bad and Sweet Potato Pie ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real relatable way I found her tips on how to support those who are This book wasn t what I expected I wanted it to go deep but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl s life experiences with passages like You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree That ss or I grew p spending summers on a tiny lake in New Hampshire which was as idyllic as it sounds About how her mother bought her everything she couldn t afford just because She talks about grieving in yoga classes Trader Joe s the dog groomer s and Weight Watchers which she joined even though she made sure to point out she didn t actually need to lose weight lest you think she was there for that reason She advocates traveling to the Caribbean for the holidays as a solution to having to face them sans her mother trips bankrolled by her father where heated arguments break out about whether or not to wait to eat at the Lobster Shack and this kind of argument is analysed as part of real grief She talks about having to tell people her mother had died and complains when people bring it p wouldn t it be insulting if they didn t There are few moments of real or depthand even though I realize that some people do live this kind of a life and if you do chances are high you ll love this book If you re all about khakis and boat shoes designer clothes and the Dave Matthews band this book is your jam I however felt there was far too much back handed bragging which may be nintentional she may not realize her privilege or advice for average person middle class and below had to deal with say your deceased mother s finances clearing out her things or coming to grips in less than ideal conditions say if they don t have a spouse to handle the millions of details probate court insurance benefits npaid bills death certificates etc Of course I feel awful for anyone who has lost their mom but I hope the author realizes that her example is one where the absolute BEST of conditions are in place and that for many people the road is not paved in gold and what s left behind is an intricate course of obstacles with a million enormous decisions that land on your shoulders Medical Marijuana unsupported bynlimited cash and a large group of loving people Or anyone Let s start off with why I m here I m a part of this club I never would ve thought to order this book online if I wasn t And I m glad I did My rating fo. Ont look at what it means to go through gruesome grief and come out on the other sideAn empathetic read The Dead Moms Club covers how losing her mother changed nearly everything in her life both men and women readers who have lost parents or experie.by spencer s
DOWNLOAD The Dead Moms ClubA warning to potential readers don t start this book A Walk Across France unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings It s that good Spencer writes in an engaging self deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most ofs will experience in our lives and her observations are heart felt and true You never get over your mother s death nor does your mother ever leave you Learning to live with the tension between those two realities is what it s all about First of all this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave That said I did appreciate this book especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author s situation to mine We were about the same age our moms were about the same age and we re both from Massachusetts just a decade apart After that point I didn t find much in common with the author s life at all and at times I genuinely couldn t tell if I even liked herBut I thought she was right on the mark when it came to how completely the grief took over life and the weird situations you find yourself in when explaining it and how it all feels both incredibly selfish and completely justified when you literally can t think of anything else outside of that bubble like every new thing that happens is a thing I can t tell my mom and I am still annoyed by that 3 years on Some or most of the personal details might be different but the experience of loss is Nicademus universal and I liked how this book fought that with a sense of humorIt s also of a 35 star book for me but I can save my complaints about the rating system for another day This book took me a long time to read Not because I didn t enjoy it but because it was hard I picked itp less than a month after losing my mom Kate talks about grief in a lighthearted way that makes it all seem a little less scary She holds your hand and walks you through her experience of losing her mom She was only a few years older than I was when she lost her mom to cancer so a lot of it was very relatable and helpful I m sure it s a book I ll pick Gone til November up again in a few years when I need a little reassurance You have one long messy weird beautiful life People come in and out of it live and die and affects in enormous and not so enormous ways Your mom s death is now a piece of you a new dent on the side of the strange misshapen thing that is your lifeAs a member of the Dead Moms Club for the past seven years I Turning The Professor Into A Crossdressing, Sissified and Feminized Pet - A Tale of Forced Feminization! unfortunately relate to everything Kate Spencer writes about in this book Part memoir part self help guide to grief sheses humor perhaps gratuitously at times to help the reader navigate the Fortinbras at the Fishhouses ugly and foreign world of the motherless You won t know how you re going to make it through she writes But you will You will Her book is filled with reminders of what the motherless amongs know to be true Mother s Day is the Darth Vader of holidays she nails that one planning a wedding without your mom is no walk in the park and holidays really never will be the same She also adds and I laughed aloud at this You re totally allowed to side eye all those people who say She s in a better place now Screw them Thank you Kate Spencer also astutely points out what we all know to be true whether we ve experienced grief or not we live in a society that avoids the acknowledgment of grief or loss at all costs She claims that people are better at swallowing their grief than discussing it which only exacerbates the pain of those grieving She provides s all with an important reminder If you don t know what to say to
Someone Grieving Just Try There Isn Tgrieving just try There isn t right thing to say Just say something That is ite simply good enough Beneath the often dark humor Kate Spencer ses to chronicle the grief of losing her mom at 27 to pancreatic cancer she includes some beautiful and very "Poignant Passages On The Impossibility Of Her Journey This Is "passages on the impossibility of her journey This is it is when death finally comes your fear anxiety and sorrow stretch and expand but you make room for the pain in ways you never thought possible And then suddenly it all hits explodes and you are decimated She writes beautifully about the npredictability of grief of its Kate Spencer lost her mom to cancer when she was 27 In The Dead Moms Club she walks readers through her experience of stumbling through grief and loss and helps them to get through it too This isn't a weepy sentimental story but rather a frank p fr.
R this book is based on how much it me and me and helped me hence the rating I would read this book again I was sad I finished it tonight because I felt like I was saying goodbye to a friend I latched myself ontoA lovely member of Oh No They Didn t recommended this book to me back in early December As soon as I Googled it and read the synopsis I ordered it immediately with every intention to read it as soon as it arrived on my doorstepI didn t read it as soon as it arrived on my doorstep Instead I looked at it put it on my bookshelf and didn t pick it p Les Altaens : Peuple turc des montagnes de Sibrie until MayWhy May May is Mother s Day and my birthday I needed a friend to help me get through it This isn t to say my friends haven t been they have But I needed someone who would be there at the hours I needed who knew what I was feeling without needing me to tell them As I read this book I felt justified in my feelings in the thoughts I had and am having and have foundnderstanding in even my own reactionsThis book was there for me in a way where it initiated the conversation I was taken along Kate s journey and while I couldn t relate to some aspects of her memoir I The Possible Police understood the emotion Her words spoke to me in a way and at a time where I didn t realise I needed to invite it in Am I making sense I hope I m making sense I found myself surprised to be crying at sections of it I waspset for Kate for my new friend who was grieving so palpably through the pages But I was crying for myself because where Kate spoke of her mother I inserted my own and I found someone who A Letter To Pakistan understood all the things I knew and didn t know I was doingI don t feel comfortable reviewing someone else s grief because it isn t my place to judge I am grateful for this memoir I am grateful I read it I am grateful I have it available to turn to when I need itIt has been a friend who has hugged me when I needed it and an enemy who has ripped me open when I wasn t expecting it I thought I would be able to finish this book and have a stack ofotes with me to include in my review I don t There are Before Our Eyes uite frankly too manyotes I loved the words from Martha at the endThank you for sharing your story Kate Nothing I could say would encompass what this book means to me and has done for me While it hasn t taken away my grief it s given me the ability to accept it control it when I see it coming at me and most of all just experience it knowing I am most definitely not alone I ve always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief yet it is such a niue and personal experience And again people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss yet one person s coping mechanisms may "be the exact opposite of what you needWhich brings me to this book I am a part of this "the exact opposite of what you needWhich brings me to this book I am a part of this and my experience has been so very different than the author s Which obviously is normal But I was still interested in reading and learning and relating to this book But that didn t happen There was a lot of humor which I liked except a lot of the jokes weren t actually funny They were suuuuuper forced And I didn t connect to it emotionally at all Maybe because of the way it s written or because she had an annoyingly privileged attitude but I just couldn t It had some great otes and moments but overall I expected to like it a lot than I did To be totally honest I know Kate IRL brag and read an early draft of this book double brag so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because girl I can be objective This is a really funny moving vulnerable memoir about the biggest worst loss in Kate s life and all the smaller but still devastating moments of loss that have followed in the years since It s also about hope and healing and friendship and family and weirdos who say weird things to you when you re going through a difficult time It s a really lovely book that you will read A Dark and Stormy Knight (Victorian Rebels, uickly but which will stay with you long after you ve put it down If you are or know someone who s a member of the Dead Mom s Club or the Dead Dad s Club you need to buy this book and then clear your afternoon for reading and crying and laughing and feeling your feeling. Nced grief of this magnitude will be comforted and consoled Spencer even concludes each chapter with a cheeky butseful tip for readers like the It's None of Your Business Card to copy and hand out to nosy strangers asking about your passed loved ,