Read ó PDF, DOC, TXT, eBook or Kindle ePUB free Ç Emily NagoskiAnd even though it is written primarily for women in mind I think both me men and women can lean a lot from it and will see traits of both in the case studiesI also think there are some very important messages in this book the main one being the first like and echoed through out the book you are OK You are normal You are not broken Usually when ever we do not fit the mold or something does not live p out our expectations one of those three thought does through our heads the other messages that she tries to show s
are messages we are bombarded with through out our livesthe messages we are bombarded with through out our lives that wrong you should look like this or that is not normal I ite like the idea of celebrating differences then persecuting people for themThis is a great book with a lot of insightful theories and science against myth and breaking down some pretty big wall theories of sex ans psychology have been linked since Sigmund Freud as some theories have moved on others we still have so much to learn about in others A great book that should be read by everyone and commented on what you agree with or disagree with For some women I have no doubt this would be a life changing book I definitely learned some cool stuff things I am pissed that I did not know because patriarchy But I guess I m lucky enough that I don t really need the self help of this book to help with my sex life and this aspect is really the meat of the book Also Nagoski acknowledges that the book is for and about cisgender women so that omission didn t bother me there isn t enough science about trans women or enby people but I did still feel like it was suited for straight women in long term monogamous relationships which Nagoski doesn t give a disclaimer for like she does the focus on cis women The examples of lesbians didn t really feel like they were specific to those experiences and bi women don t come Apple Pie Homicide - A Cozy Mystery up at all Single and poly women wouldn t get a lot out of this that would speak specifically to those experiences either I don t think Plus the metaphorssed to explain absolutely everything got to me after a while Come as You Are The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life is a nonfiction self help book written by sex educator researcher and author Emily Nagoski It educates about a variety of issues that impact women s sexuality and while some of it got 2am Thoughts uite repetitive in my opinion and I didn tite take away as much new information as I expected to I m glad I read it My favorite part discussed how the model of sexual response is based entirely on how men work and if women fail to be like men they are often not considered sexually normal Any woman can tell you this isn t breaking news but I thought having a whole section themed with you are normal it s the world around you that s broken was incredibly validating I will forever and a day support women who choose the science field and I have a high appreciation for Ms Nagoski s reasons for writing this book in the first place Check it out My favorite The Winds of Winter uote When people ask me Am I normal They re asking Do I belong The answer is yes You belong in your body You belong in the world You ve belonged since the day you were born this is your home You don t have to earn it by conforming to some externally imposed sexual standard7616 I m actually super excited about this book No shame ladies learning is good Come As You Are is absolutely the best book I ve ever read not just on sex but on life and well being in general Why read another book on sex Because Emily describes how your brain and your life work together to create desire and how to experience pleasure joy and confidence with your relationships AND with sex But this isn t thesual sex book with lavish promises of ecstasy by learning detailed techniues of where to put this and how to put it there Emily gives you science that feels like a warm soothing hug for all of the insecurities you ve ever felt about your body your sex and your relationships and then she describes how to apply science to your life so that you end Comece por você up with the pleasure joy and confidence To be hones It s hard not to love a book with a pseudo vagina on the front it s even harder not to love that same book for smashing all the preconceived ideas we have about female and. Er thought possible and Come as You Are explains it allThe first lesson in this essential transformative book by Dr Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her ownniue sexuality like a fingerprint and that women vary than men in our anatomy our sexual response mechanisms and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences Because women vary and that’s normalSecond lesson sex happens in a context And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s Updating review I wrote this review almost five years ago I m cringing
At Using Lady Partsusing lady parts still stick to my five star review it helped me open Orders to Kill up a lot sexually I still recommend it to everyone whether you identify as man or woman Original reviewI pickedp this book because I was interested in the science and emotion connecting woman s sexuality without sounding like a text
Book Or A Cosmo Article This Book Doesn T Justor a Cosmo article This book doesn t just about your lady parts it celebrates them a notion I m not familiar with I felt for the first time I got a glimpse of how I am as a woman and how my sexuality is connected to every part of life I think every woman should read this book if it will help a fellow reader nderstand their body better it s worth reading Even if you don t have sex are a virgin hate sex or have an amazing sex life don t let the title throw you off It s a book to celebrate the female body and the emotions and sexuality involved I ll admit I didn t even want to add this book to currently reading list on Goodreads because I was embarrassed There s nothing embarrassing about being a 30 something year old healthy woman who enjoys sex but I just thought talking about sex was something shameful If I had this book years ago I can t imagine the stress it would have saved me Regardless if the topic of sex makes you blush or not please read this book 2 stars Meh Just okI love the concept behind this book and it started off very interesting and introduced several facts of which I was not previously aware Unfortunately it then became a long repetitive read with the bulk majority of the information being mostly common sense and started to feel like a self help book vs a nonfiction book on a fascinating topic I found myself doing a lot of skimming on the back half wondering if there would be another interesting chapter coming p like the start of the book but the back 75% was rather dull for me Worth a read if you feel clueless in this area Favorite Dont Read Poetry uote Women have cultural permission to criticize ourselves but we are punished if we praise ourselves if we dare to say that we like ourselves the way we areFirst Sentence To be a sex educator is to be askedestions Books like this are why I LOVE non fictionThis should be reuired reading on female sexuality both for those with vaginas and those who are interested in or love someone with a vagina I mention the parts here because they ARE a big component of the book This is a guide to how everyone has the same parts rearranged differently and it s our perception of that and relationship with that mentality that changes our feelings perceptions and experiences of sex itself Nagoski writes in an empowering encouraging fun and yes FUNNY manner I would hand this to every single woman I know For me the biggest take away the moment which took this The information in this book is solid gold A copy should be put in the hands of every person ideally before they ve had sexual contact with another person But BUT The metaphors Dear Lord the metaphors We have sexuality as an accelerator and brakes sexuality as an overgrown garden sexuality as a hot water heater complex feelings as a sleeping hedgehog sexual interest as a customers seeking a diner sexual expectations as a touchy monitor tapping her fingernails our brains as a flock of Ok when I saw the tile of this book it thought probably what everyone else though about this book Ok the introduction and chapter 8 and appendix one might be but the rest is science over myth If it did not come so highly recommended from a respected friend of mine from ni I probably would not every given it the first look Read is as some light reading doing her PhD in Psychology So of course she decided to experiment on her friend to get a male perspective on the book So let me get this out of the way first No This is not a collection of sex
stories There are actual case studies They are not written to be provocative but to nderstand theThere are actual case studies They are not written to be provocative but to The Affair of the Blue Pig understand the or the accelerators and the breaks Thought Emily doesote a number of scientific theories and is by her own admission a nerd no judgement I have been a proud geek for years you do not have to be to Visual Group Theory (MAA Classroom Resource Materials) understand the book it is written in an easy to read way I found there is a lot of truth to this book. An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works based on groundbreaking research and brain science that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joyResearchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men So where is it Well for reasons this book makes crystal clear that pill will never exist but as a result of the research that’s gone into it scientists in the last few years have learned about how women’s sexuality works than we ev. By comparison male sexuality Like for example did you know that the hymen as an indication of virginity is entirely a social construction and there is no scientific evidence backing it Using actual real science Dr Emily Nagoski a speak the truth and only the truth sex educatorprofessor breaks down all the things we think we know about sex and desire and drive and in the process makes you feel like not are you normal but we re ALL normal As she says over and over and over We re all madep
Of The Same Basicthe same basic just organized differently In other words there is no normal This is a game changer of a human sexuality book not just for women who have always been told that men s sexuality is the default HINT it s not but for men who love women and don t The Experiment (Saving Caeorleia understand why the things that work for them don t work for women Justjust go buy this Buy this and read it and try not to be that weird person pushing a sex book on every single lady person you know Because these are all lessons we need to learn Better fors better for everyone Rachel Manwillfrom The Best Books We Read in April All right so this is not the book I thought it was when I got it and I apologise for a rating that would surely be higher if I were part of the target audience I was hoping it was a survey of the latest scientific research into arousal disorders and sexuality in fact it s a very selective presentation of those pieces of research that are considered helpful in promoting women s sexual well being autonomy and pleasure Studies however revealing which do not promote such things are ignored In other words the book is primarily therapy not science Perhaps not surprising given that the author is a sex therapist but I hadn t realised that I thought she was a researcherI ve been very intentional about the empirical details I ve included or excluded I asked myself Does this fact help women have better sex lives or is it just a totally fascinating and important empirical puzzle And I cut the puzzlesThis means that although there is some On Good And Bad useful information here it is interspersed with a lot of rather irritating vaguely encouraging bullshit about living with confidence and joy inside your body reassurances that you are all normal all beautiful and exhortations to listen with your heart not with your fear Naturally as a British passport holder I cannot read this stuff without feeling my toes clench and my testicles retract into my body and the narrative tone doesn t help either Nagoski writes in the earnest chatty way of someone trying to write a book for people who don t read books with lots of forcedly collouial comments like Wait what and For realsie real OK fine I am clearly not the target audience I get that but for me it gets incredibly grating when every hint of scientific information is hedged around with encouragements and stupid metaphors and open condescension before a section on the hedonic centres of the mesolimbic cortex which Nagoski calls your emotional One Ring she warns It gets pretty nerdy here Ready Okay and afterwards patss on the head by asking Did you make it Phew That was the hard part Nice job Gee thanks Dr NagoskiAristophanes in Plato s Symposium and for those of you who very nderstandably just fell asleep replace that with the song The Origin of Love from John Cameron Mitchell s Hedwig and the Angry Itch offers
this parable about why humans love Really What I found so infuriating about all thisparable about why humans love Really What I found so infuriating about all this the implied gendering of her tone it s somehow pitched at a certain idea of women as though they have no interest in hard science and need their research presented in the form of a Cosmo iz It s really outrageous I don t know if I should be taking it as some reflection on the state of US science education but the total horror of any scientific terminology combined with the girlfriends chatting over a Manhattan tone just left a really bad taste in the mouth Men come off no better Nagoski writes that she has to translate the science of women s sexual well being better Nagoski writes that she has to translate the science of women s sexual well being Manly Fix It Dude Speak to talk to her clients partnersThe reason this is so frustrating is that the actual research presented is pretty important and in some cases not so well known The two presiding ideas in the book I think are the concept of respo. Rousal desire and orgasm Cutting edge research across multiple disciplines tells s that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life is not what you do in bed or how you do it but how you feel about it Which means that stress mood trust and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it Once you nderstand these factors and how to influence them you can create for yourself better sex and profound pleasure than you ever thought possibleAnd Emily Nagoski can prove it.